Before you decide to really get into your serious relationship, you have what I call the introductory period. Its usually two-three months. This is when you are talking, dating, going on adventures and seeing if the two of you are compatible. (Keep in mind dating consist of whatever you and your partner decide to do. Don't let me stop you). In my opinion, I think this time period should be experienced first before introducing your partner to your friends and family. This is because at times friends and family sort of think they have dibs on you. You bring your partner around friends and family and usually he or she will be sized up. Old home wrecking crushes and exes could/will deliberately try to cause problems with the newbie. Your years old friends will sometimes try to whisper in you or your partner's ear not to move forward. A parent will automatically think he or she can bulldoze their way in between a person's relationship. If your partners parents are around, they might try to walk over your head like your partner is the boss of you, and vice versa with the roles the two of you play toward one another and with parents. Your partners parents might look at you like your crazy when you set them in their place. Friends might try to break you and your partner up taking them to clubs for a pick up. Yes all of this depends on how strong your relationship is, and how strong both of your wills are. Just know that no good can come from letting imposers into your relationship AT ALL! Keep in mind too that all that can very well happen after the two to three month introductory period. My point is though that after the two to three month introductory period of your relationship, you will have more of an idea of what both of you want out of the relationship. You both can decide if you want to take a bigger step and meet everyone, or if you want to cut things short and just go your separate way. If you introduce your partner to a big group of people, its like throwing them into a turbulent ocean and letting them sink or swim. It creates friction with all loved ones and everyone will think they are allowed an opinion. When everyone gets an opinion this can mean there is a loss of control in what direction your relationship will go. Yes they get an opinion to a small degree, but it should be later not sooner. If that opinion is obnoxious it should be taken with a grain of salt or boundaries should quickly be set.
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As always I'm glad when you stop by. My post are about issues that I really think are important when it comes to relationships and human dynamics. I would really love to hear any feedback, comments or topics that you would like to share with me. Thank you and have a great day S.L. Melendez
Copyright 7/26/15 S.L. Melendez
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