CARS OR A SOCIOECONOMIC STATUS SHOULD NOT DEFINE A PERSON'S VALUE

A person's car or their socioeconomic status should never define a person's value. Its sad to know that a lot of people measure their value according to where they stand in life and what they drive. A lot of people should realize that people come from all walks of life. Some people prefer used cars over new cars and jobs where they actually love what they are doing. This is because they do not want to deal with the high monthly payment of the car or going to a place they hate working at.  There are people who deal with different circumstances. Some may not be able to afford expensive things or be able to hold a high paying job. A lot of people seem to use their jobs and cars to feel powerful, in a world that can be scary and a cruel place to live. Having a nice car and a high paying job might make you look better, but the payment of the car and the stress to keep your job has effects on your health when trying to keep your image up. Some people prefer to live within their means and have plenty. By this I mean of what they need on their table instead of a barely lived in place to come home to. Some people are low maintenance and know how to stretch a dollar to feed and provide for their family. Some people prefer to go green and live off the grid, riding a bike to save money and be healthier.  My point is that pride can consume a person if he or she is not careful. In my opinion more people should really ask themselves if their expensive car and high end job really defines who they are as a person. They should also really ask themselves if they are TRULY happy. To me happiness comes from within and people should be more true to themselves. They should also feel like they should not have to prove themselves to others so much. Everyone is good enough in their own way. It just takes each person to realize their value and worth.


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****ADDITIONAL INSPIRATION****
WHOEVER HAS NO RULE OVER HIS OWN SPIRIT IS LIKE A CITY BROKEN DOWN, WITHOUT WALLS. PROVERBS 25:28


***OUR STRENGTH IS SEEN INTHE THINGS WE STAND FOR; OUR WEAKNESS IS SEEN IN THE THINGS WE FALL FOR THEODORE EPP


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DON'T SIT AROUND AND LET OTHERS CALL THE SHOTS IN YOUR LIFE.

Your trying to establish a life for yourself and you notice a lot of people are telling you how to live your life. These people are people that can be selfish and only think of themselves. These people want to come and go and do what they want, but don't want you living your life the way you need to. What do you do? I say reevaluate your priorities, decide who stays and goes in your life and really decide what is best for you. Example: Your working a job that gives you a lot of hours and a decent amount of freedom. Someone in your life tells you not to work it because you and your partner will not be able to spend time with each other. You partner tells you he or she will be living life the way he or she desires. Your partner also plans to enter and exit your life the way he or she feels like. My point of bringing this up is this: Take your power back and live your life the way its best for you. If this person does not support the decisions you make to benefit your life, then reevaluate if you want that individual in your life. If you and another person decide to get into a relationship and certain things will take place once your together but doesn't its time to declare a time out. You will probably want to think about if that person is meant to stay in your life if he or she is breaking their word already. If you don't have a lot of friends but your very adventurous, you should be bold and go check out your town by yourself. Make up a mini bucket list of things you always wanted to do and do them. You will thank yourself once you do. When you are in a relationship and your partner wants to do something he or she likes, and you want to do your own thing, by all means don't be afraid to do so. This is the same for people in college pursuing a major they are not crazy about. Make sure the major you are going after is something you want to do and not what your family pressures you to do. In the long run you are the one stuck with living out THEIR decisions for your life and your unhappiness. My eBook is still $2.99 at:


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*****ADDITIONAL INSPIRATION***
Never compromise with those who water down the word of God to human experience. Oswald Chambers


**The law of the Lord is perfect, converting the soul; The testimony of the Lord is sure, making wise the simple; The statutes of the Lord are right, rejoicing the heart; The commandment of The Lord is pure, enlightening the eyes.  PSALM 19:7-8


Copyright 8/5/2015 S.L. Melendez

STEREOTYPES SUCK!! EVERYONE SHOULD BE LOVED AND RESPECTED FOR WHO THEY ARE.

I absolutely hate stereotypes. A lot of people seem to always try to fit people in a neat little box. Sometimes when people are placed in their neat box, they are looked down upon. People at times do not even give people a chance and try to get to know them. 
People sometimes automatically think that their group is better than the other. I go to Boise State and I love the fact that there is a lot of diverse cultures there. I love having the opportunity to get to know diverse cultures. From a young age, I was taught not to ever think I was better than other people. In fact, this is how I look at it...If God wanted us to all be the same as a whole package, he would have made us the same. Life is a journey and on that journey there are different people that you will meet. When people take the time to get to know others, regardless of how they are labeled, they usually find that the person is very interesting. For one they bleed red like the rest of us. Two, they have their own story to tell. I view people sort of like books. Just because someone prefers to play sports or can be described as a intellect, does not mean a person has a right to look down on the other or treat a person differently. The two individuals should be respected equally. An athlete should not be considered dumb or stupid. In fact I have met jocks that were straight A students and were consistently on honor role. Guess what? They were the nicest people! I love people who are described as intellects. In high school sadly enough the intellects were made fun of. I hated that because to me it was sooo unfair. Lots of people now would tell me "Guess what? Life's not fair!" I made sure I befriended those people. I was about 15 years of age and today I am still friends with these individuals. If a person is described as "gothic", the stereotypes that all goths are witches or worship the devil are not true. I have found out from being friends with a few that they are extremely intriguing people. The gothic individuals that I met are very open minded, VERY artistic and have great taste in music. These individuals are really great people to have had the chance to get to know. If you want to know more about diverse cultures, all you have to do is try to be friends with people of other cultures. You would be amazed at what fascinating things that you can learn. You really don't have to travel out of the United States unless you just want to. One of my pet peeves is when I hear people refer to foreign people as illegal immigrants. I feel like they are referring to all foreign people that way. When people say that Mexicans are taking their jobs lets be real. Those "jobs" are usually jobs most people won't do. I'm just saying. The stereo type that they will work for $5.00 an hour...maybe they will.  Everyone that I know makes $10.00 an hour or more AND they were/are in college, spoke/speak English and had/have their papers. Taco Bell, Rio Grande, Fiesta Guadalajara and restaurants like these are not really even close to what real Mexican food taste like. Contrary to popular belief, Mexicans and Hispanics in general are not dumb at all. They are some of the smartest, people blessed with common sense.  They seem to always know someone who can help you regardless of what problem you might have. Seriously there is good and bad in all races. I feel like a lot of stereotypes are simply not true!  Now we move to heavy people. I think it is absolutely wrong to assume heavy people are lazy or sit around and eat all day. They might actually have a thyroid problem or they could be insulin resistant. Being insulin resistant makes it harder to lose weight when someone exercises. The individuals a lot of times need medicine as well as a special diet to get their weight down. Regardless of why they are heavy, it does not give people the right to be mean or to ridicule them. If a heavy person is out trying to walk or run, I'm asking you to PLEASE not make fun of them by saying "RUN FAT ASS RUN!!" That kind of treatment can emotionally and mentally scar people. A lot of times the person attempting to help him or herself probably has low self esteem or a low self image anyways. If you think that it helps motivate them it doesn't. In fact, it makes you look like a horrendous monster in this already cruel world. Trust me, if someone is overweight and they are out trying to walk everyday, it would probably do them more good to give them a two thumbs up when driving by. Also congratulate them and tell them keep up the good work. That type of positive reinforcement will go many more miles with people. I was hiking up this mountain called Table Rock. This beautiful lady jogging up hill went by me as I was almost to the top and she was like "Congrats to you. Good work". To me that made my day for a week because she was nice enough to take a few minutes out of her day to acknowledge my trying to do better for myself. That was when I discovered I love hiking and long walks. Anyways back to my point. If folks are out trying to walk or jog they already know what is wrong with their weight. That is why they are out there in the first place. When I see people make fun of heavy people or just people in general it saddens me and it kind pisses me off. Imagine if that person was your mom, dad, sibling, friend ect. Some would say "But I would not let anyone I know get to that point in their life" Yes, maybe but not everyone thinks alike or has similar life experiences either. Regardless of what walk of life a person is from, treat the person with respect. This world would be a more awesome, pleasant place to live in if we learned to respect and love one another. Taking into consideration someone's feelings goes a long way as well. People will ALWAYS remember you by the way you made them feel. If they were made to feel bad, sometimes people hold grudges for many years. Life sometimes can be like traveling in a huge circle and you might need that person someday. If you did need someone who you made feel bad, that person will probably be picturing that negative experience he or she went through with you.   As I have said in some of my earlier post there are topics that I will post that might not refer to my eBook I'm promoting. These post will be coming up fairly soon. If there are any topics/subjects you would love to discuss or have an opinion about by all means let me know and I will gladly converse with you. As always, thank you for stopping by and have a great day. S.L. Melendez


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Copyright 8/3/15 S.L. Melendez

WHEN GETTING INVOLVED IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP(MOVING IN TOGETHER) YOU MIGHT THINK OF MANAGING YOUR OWN FINANCES.

A lot of people might get mad at me for saying this or thinking I'm trying to tell tem what to do. I'm giving advice that you have a choice to take. I am talking about the aspect of getting married and getting a prenuptial agreement. Especially if you are well off. There are times if you don't, you leave yourself vulnerable. When I say vulnerable, I mean if you share a checking account, your spouse or significant other can squander both of your incomes on frivolous things.  If your spouse or partner meets a home wrecker(Sorry if that is harsh but everyone won't have your interest at heart) your spouse or partner could save his or her income and dive into yours to spend on someone else's car payment or lingere. If you don't manage your own money and give someone else money to pay your rent, car payment or light bill, you might find your self in a homeless shelter with a reposed car. That or an eviction notice that your looking at while sitting in a dim candle lit room. Finally if you are very well off and you happen to meet a gold digger or fortune hunter you might want to get your prenup in order before getting married. If you don't have a prenuptial agreement you leave yourself vulnerable to an insincere spouse with dollar signs in his or her eyes. If you do have a prenup and you want to give your spouse some money fine but just watch yourself. If your in a relationship where you and your spouse pay half of everything down the middle then fabulous. My boyfriend and I do this.  If he runs low I will back him and If I run low he backs me. We have a system where everything is balanced out and things are not weighing too heavy on me or him. My eBook is still at amazon.com,  smashwords.com, bookdaily.com(Free chapter when you buy), and lulu.com
Booktango.com and myebook.com is still in waiting. Thank you so much for visiting my blog. I hope you have a great weekend and I will be back on Monday. Take care S.L. Melendez


copyright 7/31/15 S.L. Melendez


Faith
Acts 11:22-24
Acts 27: 21-25

MIND GAMES PEOPLE PLAY

There are different types of mind games that people play. Friends, family, spouses, significant others, and children test us. People play games out of the house because at home they are probably controlled by one or more people. When some people play mind games with you, it might be because you intimidate them or your everything that they are not. In relationships if someone is not serious about you they will play cat and mouse wanting you to chase them. A person will lie to you about stuff breaking your trust and wonder why your suspicious toward that individual. Some people will want different flavors of the week when it comes to finding a partner and being a commitment phobe toward that person. Some people might not really love you but are only looking for a step mom or dad. Some people are nice to you just to have a place to bathe, eat and sleep. When you don't do what they want the person becomes Hyde to you and shows true colors. A partner might deliberately flirt with others to make their partner jealous. thy don't understand it hurts the other person's feelings. A person might give 110% while his or her significant other gives only 10%. A male or female partner could be a regular mental manipulator always pressing just the right buttons to get what he or she wants out of the relationship. This is especially easy with someone who particularly has low self esteem or a low self image AKA a human doormat. A parent will use someone's kids against the other parent to emotionally hurt them. Especially, if he or she can get away with it.  Parents might not be there for their kids but want their kids to drop everything for them. A parent might play one kid's insecurities against a more confident, favored sibling. The parent  compares one with the other boisterous one. Giving  one sibling everything and not the others is a major mind game that causes resentment. Being a parent who complains about everything a kids does well up until he or she is out of the house and then even into adulthood. Nothing that person did was good enough. Telling a child/grownup that school I a waste of time is another mind game because what is a person's kid suppose to do stop learning and become a vegetable? Picking on physical characteristics of children can last a lifetime affecting self esteem and self image.  Mind games that coworkers and bosses place can be as followed: When either person becomes competitive with you. A person can be seen as weak by a boss and usually when he or she is viewed as weak a boss can take the chance to try and tell a person that he or she is not good enough. This usually stems from a bosses biasness. Other games coworkers play are when people nark you out for any and every reason. There are also people who try to sabotage the good work you do. People acting like they like you and five minutes later they send poison darts t you using their eyes. There are people who gossip about people and point out all someone's  flaws and imperfections wen thy don't count their own. When a coworker/boss acts like their way of doing something is perfect and your way of doing it is simply awful even though higher management  commends you every time they see you. Other games people can play are when your considered an outcast if you don't kiss tail or deal with drama.  Thank you so much for visiting my blog and I will be in contact pretty soon. My eBook is at these websites:
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Faith
Acts 11:22-24
Acts 27: 21-25


Copyright 7/31/15  S.L. Melendez

BUILDING YOUR CONFIDENCE WILL CAUSE LADIES AND GENTLEMENT TO COME(No pun intended I promise)THEN AGAIN THEY MIGHT EVENTUALLY:)

In my life I have noticed that a lot of men and women love confident people. Men and women alike do not like people who are not self reliant at least for the most part. When people have game and believe in themselves, they exude a sexy confidence that can't be beat. The confidence that they exude is charisma which makes everyone turn around and take a second look. When people do not believe in themselves it shows. Its not a bad thing but life is too short not to be confident in ones self and his or her abilities. A lot of people in the world have pipe dreams, goals and aspirations. They want to do them but for one reason or another they don't. When they get older they regret not closing their eyes and making it happen. I think people should be more sure of themselves, pound their fist on their fears and have attitude of "I owe it to myself to give my goals and dreams my best shot at trying to go after them. Its not a given that you were meant to do that type of job, be with that person or find out maybe your not so good at what you tried. It is a given however that you WILL discover hidden talent, charisma and maybe one or two admirers you had because you started to believe in yourself more. Another fact that I have learned in my life is that when you are confident in yourself, you will draw the other confident people in the crowds. You can seriously establish work leads, friends, clientele and you can help build people up who are not confident in themselves. Your confidence is your inner light to other individuals. I have noticed that there is not enough listeners, compassion and empathy in the world. In conclusion I think confidence goes hand in hand not only with self love but compassion for others. If you love yourself more and your confident in yourself then a person probably will be less likely to hate, despise or see negativity in others. A confidant person will be more likely to see the world as a land of opportunity instead of a cruel wasteland. Its not to say this world is not a hard place to live in because I admit it is. The more emotionally filtered you are, the easier it is t live here in the big, scary but beautiful place called earth. Thank you so much for dropping by my blog. My eBook is still at the usual places and I am still waiting to publish my eBook at booktango.com and myebook.com. My power point presentation is now on my Blog at a post, its on twitter.com, Facebook.com and I put the URL that is on YouTube on Instagram. Please feel free to check it out and if you want to leave feedback or comments please do so. I would love to hear from you. Take care!  

ALLS FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR

Since some of my eBook is about love and relationships I thought I would type a post regarding the title I used ALLS FAIR IN LOVE AND WAR. I stumbled upon this title and I honestly think the comparison is interesting. To me its like comparing love and hate. Both emotions are forms of passion. I have always heard hate is a form of love and I believe it. To me its a form of dark, black love or black energy coming from someone who resents another person. When you love someone, I really mean true love, agape love, you basically throw all the rules out the window to stay in love or to keep that love alive. You will try to do whatever it takes to protect that person. You will do what you have to, to keep that person well. You will fight who you need to in order to make sure your love stays alive. Of course this goes for your partner giving you the same treatment. This would include moving long distance to nurture the love you have with someone. Moving long distance to be with a person you love takes a lot of mental and emotional strength. You sacrifice time that you can never get back to spend with your tribe/family/friends. You risk taking up loneliness and anxiety. Everything new is waiting to greet you and your not sure that you will be able to mesh with changes. For the brave folks who take the risk including myself who has been there, done that congrats to you. Also happy travels to those either traveling today or in the near future. Have a happy life to everyone moving before fall gets here. I moved here from AL 1,980 miles, back in 2009. It was a scary thing for me. It was majorly scary!! I did not know when or if I would fall on my face. I didn't find love right away. I found it a year later when I was on the verge of completely giving up. My point is, if you know it will make you happy, moving long distance is definitely worth the effort and sacrifice. Sometimes everything you need is waiting many hours from where you was living your life. The sacrifice you take moving is fair in love to keep it alive.
In all honesty if I had my choice, I would bring our troops home. I'm always wondering if they are okay. Personally there is nothing fair about them having to go to war. Keeping love alive is one thing but realistically when a soldier is fighting for his or her life, the last thing this person is thinking about is what is fair. In fact the soldier is probably thinking how unfair it would be if a terrorist were to kill him or her while there is a spouse or family at home waiting for them to come back home. I don't think this is fair at all!! In fact I absolutely hate death and I wish people would never have to die. Unless they are a zombie that kind of person scares me. I love ghost, vampires, werewolves/shape shifters, and aliens/robots but zombies creep me out:( Getting back on subject, the terrorist definitely don't seem to mind hurting our soldiers. When soldiers are protecting us, the rules should not be strict if our military is caught off guard trying to save us from people trying to kill them, and want to do the same to us. Military should not kill just to kill but if they anticipate someone going to try to do something bad to one of our soldiers, of course they will have to use their best judgment. I will never understand why there has to be war at any point in history. I understand someone, somewhere always wants power and to over throw someone. It would be wonderful if people could just get along. If the United States are defending themselves from terrorist, biological warfare or nuclear bombs to save or country, then yes to me that's only fair. All I'm saying is war, terrorism, chaos, and controversy troubles and saddens me. I hope and pray one day everyone in the world can actually get along and be at peace with one another. My eBook is still at amazon.com, smashwords.com, bookdaily.com(get a free chapter when you buy) and lulu.com. I am still awaiting approval for booktango.com and myebook.com. I should know some thing by this coming Monday. Thank you so much for stopping by my blog. I always hope you are doing well. Until next time I will talk to you soon:)


Copyright 7/31/15 S.L. Melendez


Faith:
Acts 11:22-24 
Acts 27:21-25