Never give up by Nick Vujicic

SOMETIMES PEOPLE ARE NOT MEANT TO LEAVE WHERE THEY BELONG. BE YOURSELF AND FIND YOUR HAPPINESS

As I promised on Twitter I am getting ready to finish this blog out regarding my first eBook LIFE LESSON ON BEING GOOD ENOUGH by S.L. Melendez. I admit I don't have a lot of money to do fancy advertising but that is okay. I have been really examining things with a fine tooth comb and taking notes on how my eBook could have been better. I'm a little disappointed but I will NEVER give up my love for writing. I am however getting ready to start a new blog for my second eBook. There are so many ideas brewing in my head but I can't really give you a hint just yet except that it will be pertaining to the paranormal. My first eBook was relating to all the issues that ever really either irked me or that I felt strong about. I am very fascinated with anything paranormal. This includes ghost and haunted houses, true life accounts of peoples experiences, spirits, demons, aliens, witches, shape shifters, you name it I'm intrigued:) Halloween is definitely one of two of my favorite holidays. (Christmas is my first but because of religious reasons. Meh presents are cool but not everything. Anyways... I will now start my new posting. I was busy for a short time. I just started back to school and I might be working a new job pretty soon. Lets keep my fingers crossed and please keep me in your prayers if you will. I would sure appreciate it:)


So I have been hearing a number of accounts where people are moving to a state they never moved to but decided to move back. They moved back for a number of reasons. I actually moved 1,980 miles away which is almost two days away from a lot of where my family is. I have not seen my family for six years. I miss them a lot and hope maybe by this summer at least I get go see them. Finances just didn't work out but okay. I'm not going to dwell on that. I applaud the people who at least try to follow their dreams in search of happiness. If they come home because they found crap there that they did not know was going to be at their destination its okay. They are NOT failures!  Its okay if they decide they would rather just go home to their support systems because what they found will never benefit them.  I don't see that as failure but I do see it as there is something more awesome waiting for them at home, and they get another chance to discover it. If the person is truly happy going back then more power to him or her. In my case I left because I felt unloved and unappreciated at the time back in June of 2009. I have had time to realize my family did indeed love and miss me. It took me leaving to realize it. Things just kept happening for me though here in ID that made me not want to give up and back track. In my mind I feel like I been there and done that and like to keep moving forward. I had the chance when I was presented with the opportunity, to move in with my BF in his place. I was ready to do so but was blocked by one of his family members. I said screw this I am staying in my own place and keeping my job. My BF ended up moving with me away from his family instead. It might have been different if he had kids. I have known people that tried very hard in court cases to obtain custody of their kids. It can be done through Probano if a partner beats the other parent to it. Each state is different and you have to look up custody laws. The person I knew fought tooth and nail to get custody of his kids but struggled many years with it due to his ex-wife's spitefulness and I will leave it at that. Things eventually worked out. My BF and I are working toward getting married though. I just wanted to be happy and I didn't feel like I should ask permission of other folks on how to live my life. People in relationships in similar situations should not have to either. This is especially when dealing with babies moms, dads, or your partners parents, friends or family. Have your own mind and don't deal with crap thrown in your direction. You don't have to bow down to anyone and if a partner is not man enough or woman enough to dodge obstacles threatening you relationship then its okay to walk away. If everything in the world comes at you like its not meant to be then it probably isn't. Life is too short to not recognize your value when being involved with someone. If deep down you don't love someone enough to spend your life with them then again, walk away and go home. True love, kids or not, will not keep a parent from being with who they love. That is what court ordered motions for child custody rights are for. Interfering family or friends will have to learn to let their loved one live his or her life while dealing with their own. Its not to say you can't keep traveling. Personally I love traveling and I will never give it up if I can help it. Sometimes people just take the wrong roads. I hope you enjoyed all of my post. My new blog will be up pretty soon. My eBook will continue to be on said for 1.99 on seven out eight of my publishing venues. Have a blessed day and good night.


Copyright 8/31/15 S.L. Melendez

DON'T BE AFRAID TO DISCOVER YOUR HOBBIES, INTEREST OR PASSIONS.

 I am proud to inform everyone that from 8/14/15 to 8/17/15 I have been out of town. I went camping in Payette National Forest located in Payette ID. This was only my second time ever camping in my life and I am 37 years old. The first time I went camping was at a more formal campsite in South Lake Tahoe that was right across the street from the beautiful lake. Yes the South Lake Tahoe was in a very wooded area but Payette National Forest was actually in a real forest. It is the kind that you see on tv that usually people always seem to get lost in and very found, or that Jason chases after people. Lol I'm kidding about that sort of but I admit this was my first time I was ever in a forest in my entire life. I absolutely love everything about it but two things, actually four but still the experience was priceless!  The four things I did not like were as followed: I didn't like the idea of having to hike about 100+ft up a very steep hill to use an out house. At first I thought what could they possibly be thinking and what if someone had diarrhea? I am seriously afraid of heights. I'm proud to say I forced myself to hike up that treacherous hill six times. The second thing I didn't like about the experience was when my boyfriend and I was cooking and the yellow jackets from under our picnic table came out and was trying to invade our soda and all of our food. Flies were just as annoying but we dealt with the issue. The third thing I did not like was sleeping on a thinner air bed in our tent. By the morning time, the mattress lost a lot of air and when we tried to get up it was nearly impossible to get up. It was annoying as hell then but very funny now. Our campsite was by a creek which I didn't mind. It was so cold though in the morning when we got up. There were people on top of these high hills that were shooting their guns which worried me a little. That was the only things that bothered me. Now here are the good things that I absolutely loved about our trip. I knew that I had an idea that I loved camping at least from the Lake Tahoe experience. I was not sure how I would feel being in the middle of a forest. I was not sure how safe it was being in a tent that was in the open wild where wolves, bears, cougars, and bobcats were supposed to be. This was a trip my boyfriend and I was supposed to have taken back in May, the week of my birthday May 10th but we did not get a chance to do so. Things came up so our trip was postponed. I have to say I was annoyed about it being cancelled but the wait and timing was so worth it!! The scenery in Payette National Forest is absolutely beautiful! Its like something you would see on television. I took so many pictures that you can view on my Facebook profile. I honestly did not want to come back to the city. I love being in the country. It really helps you to become centered again from life's stresses. My boyfriend and I were able to go on two long nature walks. That was when I took a lot of my pictures on my phone. I also took some when driving to our campsite and from our campsite when leaving. I thought it was a myth that food actually tasted better when you went camping. In my opinion it really does and its not a myth. I also learned that to keep your drinks cold, if you put them in the creek and leave them overnight the cold water will keep them cold. Seriously its true it really does! If you are not crazy about camping, your scared of it or you don't like the campsite, give it a chance and stick it out. I really think you will like it once its tim to go home. My boyfriend and I were able to just sit in our camping chairs at 12am and 2:30am just looking up at the millions of stars you can actually see when your in the forest. In the city you could see some but to me its sort of harder though. I met some awesome people in the campsite next to us. They taught me a thing or two about my fear of heights. The kids, two girls and two boys about the age of 7-9 years old were so personable and sweet! The first day we were at our campsite, the kids kept coming over on our side climbing the steep hills. They made a dirt slide and was actually sliding down a slippery dirt trail. They actually worried me because I thought they might fall from the hill being so high. Never once did any of them mind the height of the hill they were all running up and down on. I thought holy smokes.. if they can walk/run up and down the high trails I can too. I eventually found a sturdy walking stick and I pretty much conquered my fears somewhat anyways. I'm still scared of heights and I have a long way to go getting over my fears but I didn't let my fear of heights over come me. The children eventually started talking to me and I met their grandma who was a very nice lady. Other folks in their family were very nice as well. It was such a positive experience! One day I was looking for some dishes and I happen to hear CLOMP CLOMP CLOMP. I look up and there is actually a huge, beautiful brown horse coming down the very steep hiking trail leading from the out house. I was astounding at this majestic creature! I seen horses from on the other side of a fence but this horse and the lady bravely riding it was only a few feet from me. Two other ginormous horses with a man and girl riding them came walking by. I got to talk to these very nice people. I thought to myself "WOW!..They probably have done exciting things like this their whole life". The lady coming down the hill looked like she was in a total state of harmony riding the horse. They all seemed peaceful and happy and who could blame them? They were in a beautiful forcing doing what they loved! Last I want to mention the thrill seeking dirt bike riders running their bikes up these very high steep hills. OMG I would not be brave enough to do that but they seriously rode like they were professional dare devils. Most of the riders on dirt bikes were guys in their teens, maybe early 20's. I can tell they probably have been riding dirt bikes since they were early teens. The atv riders also looked like they were having a blast. My whole experience was priceless and I would not trade it for anything. My point of this blog post is to say that I really think that you should not be afraid to pursue your hobbies, interest or passions. I now know that camping is one of my favorite hobbies. Writing is one of my favorite passions because I can connect with lots of people. If there are things in your life that you want to try but are scared to do, don't be scared, do them! I'm serious because you will always wonder what might have been if you don't. Try to be fearless and don't let fear consume you if you can help it. I make a rule that I will at least try something before I rule out not even attempting to do it at all. When you are discovering your hobbies, interest and passions do not let people talk you out of experiencing something that could turn into one of  your loves. If its dangerous or can get you killed that's one thing but if your yearning to try something new that is pretty safe anyways, I highly encourage you to at least try. You owe it to yourself to live life to the fullest, or try to anyways. Anyways thank you for stopping by. Thank you for visiting my blog. Below will be some additional inspiration to help inspire you. Here it goes:


****KEEP AWAY FROM PEOPLE WHO BELITTLE YOUR AMBITIONS. SMALL PEOPLE ALWAYS DO THAT, BUT THE REALLY GREAT MAKE YOU FEEL THAT YOU, TOO, CAN BECOME GREAT.**** (MARK TWAIN)


****THEREFORE LET US PURSUE THE THINGS WHICH MAKE FOR PEACE AND THE THINGS BY WHICH ONE MAY EDIFY ANOTHER.**** (((ROMANS 14:19))) Have a great day and I will talk to you later xoxoxo


Copyright 8/19/15 S.L. Melendez

THE TRUE REASON WHY I WROTE LIFE LESSONS IN BEING GOOD ENOUGH

Hello! My name is Sorina L. Melendez and I am 37 years old. I was born in Huntington, WV. I lived 8 years of my life in Pomona, CA. I lived 7 years of my life in Decatur and Stone Mountain GA. I lived 10 years of my life in Huntington, WV where I was born. I lived five years of my life in Russellville, AL and finally I have currently been living 6 1/2 years here in Boise, ID. I absolutely love traveling and I have been traveling most of my life. I am proud to say that I have had the chance to visit 31 states out of 50 in my life. My mom primarily raised me, even though I have had the privilege of knowing my step dad since I was three years old. I attend Boise State University. I am currently in the process of obtaining my Masters Degree in Social Work and will minor in Psychology. I love reading, writing, drawing, traveling, exploring, movies, camping/nature, meeting new people, art, animals, and in general I love life. My eBook is dedicated to anyone who has ever felt like they were not good enough at any point in their life. Its not about yoga nor is anything inside the covers regarding yoga. I chose my cover simply because I like it.  To me it speaks a message of finding inner Zen and becoming one with yourself. Different things in life can cause people to feel very unworthy, unattractive and to doubt themselves. Personally I don' like to see people not being in themselves because each person has a world of gifts and talents they can offer the world. My eBook is dedicated to people to help them become more comfortable in their own skin. I chose an array of topics to write about that personally have bothered me and got under my skin at one point or another in my life. I chose to write about things that baffled me and caused me to ask why things were happening in the world as it has done or was doing so at the time.  I especially on the topics and experiences of being bullied at any time in ones life. I write about situations where a person may have issues with their self esteem or self image. I also cover the subject of dating. I do this because most people would probably agree that dating can be a hard stage to experience in life. If someone's dating experience is bad every time he or she meets someone, the whole dating scene can have an impact on self esteem and self image. I wrote about different things a person can experience in life that can and will impact a person's self esteem. Finally, finding love is a very important milestone a person experiences in life. Keeping love can be challenging. In my eBook I wrote about a lot of the major outside forces a couple can come in contact with while being in their relationship. I despise bullying. I have experienced issues with my self esteem and self image. I have had difficulties when I dated. I was at the point of giving up on love when I found my soul mate. I'm now with my soul mate that I met when I came to Idaho on a blind whim. Yes I closed my eyes and decided to come to Idaho. I never been to this state before. I was invited to come live here by a former friend I lost contact with when we decided to go on our separate life paths. Before I moved here I asked myself and my former friend what was in ID? Evidently my soul mate and my destiny. Finding and keeping love can be like riding a roller coaster with all its ups and downs. With all my life lessons I have experienced, I would love the opportunity to share my wisdom with all of you. I know I am good enough because of all the adventures, good and bad experiences and dilemmas I have been through. I dedicate this eBook to you. I hope that my advice and life lessons I am sharing with you help you discover  that you too, are good enough for whatever surprises life has in store for you. Motivation, inspiration and helping you to find inner Zen are my keys from me and handed to you when you read my eBook. Love always S.L. Melendez




 I will be posting my next blog post later today called DISCOVER YOUR INTEREST, PASSIONS, HOBBIES.


Some additional motivation is as follows:


****DO YOU LOVE LIFE? THEN DO NOT SQUANDER TIME, FOR THAT'S THE STUFF LIFE IS MADE OF. (BENJAMIN FRANKLIN) ****


*****SO TEACH US TO NUMBER OUR DAYS, THAT WE MAY GAIN A HEART OF WISDOM.*** (((PSALM 90:12)))


Have a great day everyone and I will talk back with you soon. God bless!




Copyright 8/18/15 S.L. Melendez

REALLY LOOK WITHIN YOURSELF TO FIND OUT WHAT YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE IS

A lot of us face different types of personal issues or demons on a daily basis. Some of us might feel lost and not on the path we are meant to be on. There are things in life that could make a person happy, but might also really pose a  real struggle in day to day life. I myself am constantly looking for answers daily. The questions I have are about things pertaining to my life and why they happen. I, like everyone else am learning new ways to cope with things tossed my way.  Some things I am faced with are good and some grind on my nerves. I do believe that we might have life themes and that mine are adversity and harmony. If these two themes are not my life themes they are healer and adversity. There has been times in my life where I wanted my life to go a certain path but it turned out going a completely opposite direction. The direction my life went was not bad for the most part. In fact, it was pretty much what I needed which brings me to my next point. I heard this sermon when I was listening to a Christian radio station this past Sunday. The pastor was saying that the lord disciplines his children out of love by not giving us what we want or yearn for. In the long run it usually gives us peace what we do receive from the Lord. In so many words the pastor(I admit I didn't catch his name), said that if you find yourself with questions that you should not forget the Lords counsel. I really agree with this. When I am burdened with questions or things that make me feel distressed, I will go somewhere quiet, start praying and looking through my bible. I admit I say a prayer, clear my mind and randomly flip through my bible slowly. I let my intuition pick the scripture I choose.  It seems like a lot of the time lately whatever scripture I decide to read gives me the answers I am looking for!! Lately I have been sharing scriptures that I have found peace with because maybe it can help put someone else's mind at ease. The message that the pastor was also talking about was to keep loving each other as brothers. I'm no where near perfect. I don't claim to be because when I was younger there were a couple of people I had a falling out with. I have asked for forgiveness and I make a rule to try to make amends with people but I refuse to let individuals sadistically try to emotionally punish me or ruin my emotional harmony. There is always two sides to every story is all I can say.  Personally with all the things that people have done to me that pissed me off I can honestly say that I have forgiven them. I truly mean that. It has taken me years to pray about things. I have asked God to wipe the negativity from my heart along with any sadness that has tried to bring me down. I am a firm believer in following the Golden rule and trying to treat people kindly with mercy and compassion. Another point the pastor made in the sermon I listened to was that people should be hospitable toward strangers. I don't invite strangers in my house. However,  if there is an abundance of things in my place that I know I won't be needing for a while I make a rule to donate it to someone who can use it. It might be a blessing to someone who can't afford it (cloths, makeup, toiletries, school supplies ect). The radio pastor said to stand up for those who are being mistreated and to not make money your love. He said to be content with what you have. I believe the Lord is our helper, he never leaves us and he will always be there to guide us. This is especially as long as we seek him out and believe in him.  I also wanted to go back to my first point when I started this post. When you are facing different things in your life whether they are good or bad, there are questions you should ask yourself. Some of these questions are:

• What are your inner nonmaterial likes?
• What are some negative things that cause you distress, sadness or makes your heart absolutely hurt?
• What are things that cause you to hate or dislike people? Is it really something pertaining to other people or is it really something you don't like about yourself?
• Can you do something about your circumstances that you are in? Will it matter six months to a year from now?

I truly believe more people should consider going after the things that really put their heart and spirit at ease. I'm not talking about money or material things. Those things are okay. I am talking about finding your purpose in the world which means finding the strings that are pulling your heart. I also wanted to say that just because you don't get what you want does not mean that what you do have and get is a bad thing. Receiving a blessing that was not asked for and different from what you originally wanted will teach you two things. The two things it teaches us is one, to appreciate positive surprises/blessings all the more when they enter into our life. Two, It teaches us to roll with life's unexpected punches, while seeing the good that can and usually does come with a blessing that was not asked for but given. My eBook is on these publishing platforms:

• booktango.com
• barnesandnoble.com
• kobo.com
• scribd.com
• amazon.com
• smashwords.com
• bookdaily.com(Get a free chapter when you buy) 
• lulu.com

As always I appreciate people who stop by. Before I close I wanted to offer some additional inspiration:


***ACTS 3:1-10 (Wanting one thing but walking away with something way better and much more needed).


*** THE MORE WE TRUST THE SOVEREIGNTY OF HEAVEN, THE LESS WE FEAR THE CALAMITIES OF EARTH (AUTHOR UNKNOWN). ***


***I WILL LIFT UP MY EYES TO THE HILLS FROM WHENCE COMES MY HELP? MY HELP COMES FROM THE LORD, WHO MADE HEAVEN AND EARTH. PSALM 121:1-2


I hope everyone makes it a great day and until we meet again know you are beautiful, strong and good enough!!  xoxoxo S.L. Melendez


Copyright 8/10/15 S.L Melendez

DON'T TAKE SOMEONE IN YOUR LIFE FOR GRANTED. HE OR SHE MAY NOT ALWAYS BE IN YOUR LIFE.

• It is never a good thing to take someone for granted. Life is very precious and the person can be here today and gone tomorrow. This is especially true if someone loves you and you care but don't really love that person back. I am a firm believer in trying to watch what I say around people I care about. I know that no one is perfect including myself. I have met folks that not only take advantage of time but people in their lives. I think maybe those people might have thought that the individuals being taken advantage of, were always going to be there but left or passed on. This brings me to my first point I wanted to make in this post. Never ever assume a person or people will always be in your life. If you don't treat them right, or take advantage of them in some sort of way, the people can and will be taken from you. This goes for people in relationships as well as family. God will see their hurt and tears and will place these individuals where they will be appreciated, loved and needed. My second point I wanted to include in this post is when individuals act like its a burden to be around someone. This can relate to relationships or family. When it comes to family, don't take on the responsibility of trying to be around someone when you don't want to. You have a choice, but to do so when you don't want to in my opinion hurts that person more. I say this because the individual will know he or she is unwanted and not appreciated. This type of treatment hurts a person emotionally, mentally and physically. This type of treatment goes hand in hand with only wanting to be around someone when someone needs something from someone. Personally this is a pet peeve that I cannot stand. You look for someone and the person is not there, or thinks other people are more important. Once no one else wants to pay attention to this individual, he or she comes looking for you. That is when its time to not answer the phone or your IM messages. My heart especially goes out to people in domestic violence scenarios. Many people in this type of situation only want to be loved and are treated really badly. These individuals are not only treated bad but their feelings are not respected at all. Most of the time these individuals do not even get an opinion about anything. There is the relationships where one partner takes another partner for granted. When I say a person is taken for granted, I mean the individual is ignored, not taken serious and not respected. The person treating his or her partner like this assumes that the individual needs him or her. In reality though ,a person can only be ignored or taken for granted so much. People all over the place get wake up calls or meet people willing to show them the love, respect and attention they deserve. The people willing to step up to the plate for these tired individuals become little birdies. These birdies are whispering in the mentally exhausted ears of the people being taken for granted.  The new people who want to show love to these tired individuals become catalyst to help these folks to believe in themselves again and leave. The people taken people for granted become a victim. They wonder what went wrong with the whole relationship. Another scenario is when people in a relationship or family fight and leave an argument unresolved. This is the worst thing people can do. The reason is because they never know when something will happen and someone's life ends without reconciliation. Its the worst thing a person can go through,  not being able to apologize for what was said. It will haunt you for many years after the argument took place. My whole point of this posting is to let you know that life is precious. If you don't love someone let the person go or remove yourself from the situation. Its wrong to take advantage of people or take them for granted. If you do love someone and feel like the person will always be there, don't assume he or she will. Show that person you love him or her because that person can and will be taken from you. If God does not remove this person from your life, a home wrecker or game killer might. I'm not saying that to be derogatory, I am saying that because there is always someone waiting in the shadows to take your partner. I promise you this! Everyone deserves love, respect and appreciation and I am being real when I say all of this to you. That being said, I am proud to tell all of you that my eBook is now on:
• booktango.com
• barnesandnoble.com 
• kobo.com
• scribd.com  
• amazon.com
• smashwords.com 
• bookdaily.com  (get a free chapter when you buy)
• lulu.com

 I am still waiting on confirmation for myebook.com and I'm not really sure if I will pursue this platform. My power point/slide show presentation is still on YouTube. I will be revising it soon as I pursue future platform. My eBook will remain $2.99 because this is how my proceeds are divided:  


 **$1.00 for which ever platform an individual purchases my eBook.
**$ 1.00 for my proceeds.
**$1.00 will be going back into the universe for charity so some of my proceeds will be given back.


I am a firm believer in given back to the universe so I can make a difference in the world. Things that I am passionate about are:

• Feeding the hungry/homeless
• Helping the Humane Society
• Finding a cure for cancer/cancer research
• Diabetic research-(My mom and grandmother died of diabetes and I hope one day a cure is found).

I have a busy day ahead of me but I wanted to touch base with all of you and tell you I missed you:)  I will never stop letting my followers know that you ladies and gentle are very loved, beautiful and  good enough!! I may or may not post another posting later today, but another one will be coming soon. I have an idea of what is about but its subject to change. Below is some additional inspiration. Love you and take care:)


******IF YOU PRAY FOR BREAD AND BRING NO BASKET TO CARRY IT, YOU PROVE TH DOUBTING SPIRIT WHICH MAY BE THE ONLY HINDRANCE TO THE GIFT YOU ASK.(D.L. MOODY)**


***WITH MEN THIS IS IMPOSSIBLE, BUT WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE".  MATTHEW 26:19


8/8/15 Copyright S.L. Melendez

Life Lessons in Being Good Enough - S.L. Melendez : Book Country

Life Lessons in Being Good Enough - S.L. Melendez : Book Country

My eBook is now available on booktango.com, barnesandnoble.com, kobo.com and scribd.com